A big issue for guys who lack success with women is that they don’t recognize the signals they get. No matter who you are and how you look, some women will simply be into you. This doesn’t mean that there is no room for improvement, because your particular look may only be attractive to one in a few hundred women, whereas if you made an effort in maximizing your appeal to the opposite sex, those numbers would dramatically rise. 

But what are some of the signals women give? I don’t want to talk about some of the minor ones yet, because many guys miss a green light the size of Las Vegas. The single most obvious one is — a smile! Yes, when she is smiling in your direction, she might want to encourage you to walk up to her. 

Especially if you find her very attractive, you may feel insecure in such a situation. Suddenly, you look for excuses why you shouldn’t make a move right now. A common one is, “How do I know she is actually smiling at me and not at someone else standing behind me?” But isn’t it much better to generally assume that she means you rather than the opposite? Depending on the distance between you and her, and your eyesight, it is in many cases simply the case that if you get the impression that she’s smiling at you, she really is. 

It’s one thing to get a smile from a girl that’s standing three feet next to you in the bookstore, but quite another if you are in a nightclub.There, the distance may be much greater, and light as well as possibly fog can cloud your judgment as well. But even in this situation it is much better to assume that she wanted to address you with a smile, and not someone else. 

Consider that she is in fact smiling. Some women do indeed smile to attract a few men, so that she can then chose one of them. In this case, you know that she is already interested in meeting someone, and that someone might well be you. Second, let’s just assume she was actually smiling at the guy who was standing right next to. Nonetheless, it is still the case that she wanted to meet someone, meaning that she is open to meet a guy. 

If that buff guy next to you is how you were before reading this article, then he might question whether the girl was really smiling at him — and not at the guy next to him instead. Maybe he is just looking for an excuse to protect his ego, and therefore wants to avoid rejection by simply not walking up to her! 

Finally, I want you to consider the situation from her point of view in such a situation: She wants to meet someone, but the guy she actually wanted to make a move didn’t dare to come speak to her. However, there is now some other guy in front of her. Yes, you! Because she is generally open to meet someone, it is more likely than not that she will give you a shot. 

So, next time you see a woman smiling in your direction, and you find her attractive, then just walk up to her. Even if she didn’t want to address you, it’s still the case that she wanted to meet someone, and the other guy probably doesn’t dare to make a move anyway. So, go for it!