Know Your Sexual Worth

Recently one of my old friends from high school added me on Facebook. We hadn’t seen each other for years, and I was curious what he had been up to. Let me tell you something about him first. 

Fernando is a second-generation immigrant. His father worked a menial job to put him and his brother through college, and he did well for himself. In fact, he is one of the most well-rounded people I know. He is well-read, takes care of his body, and his rhetoric abilities put professors of language or literature to shame. Actually, he is one of the most inspiring people I know. Currently, he is pursuing a PhD in an interdisciplinary field of science, having completed degrees in both Computer Science and Biology. 

However, when I checked his Facebook profile, I was surprised by the woman he was involved with. She really seemed rather plain. Looks-wise they were such an obvious mismatch that I couldn’t help but google her. It turned out that they are in the same research group. 

She probably views him as quite a catch. I am not so sure what he thinks about her, though. If it’s the same, then he is seriously deluded. He could do so much better for himself, and probably would only need to invest a few hours a week to find a girl who is a much better fit. After all, he has his life together, and I also remember him as being quite outgoing. 

I have noticed something similar with some of the men I have worked with. Often, they are very successful in their fields, and their lives don’t seem to lack anything. However, they seem to leave it to chance which woman they get involved with. Thankfully, this can be fixed easily, especially if they are in unfulfilling relationships and only stay with her because they are afraid of being alone, or believe it would take them a long time to “find someone like her.” 

But how can you know what your market value is? That’s quite easy to find out. One of my mantras is that you have to stay in shape. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you should spend many hours in the gym. It’s enough to be lean and have a bit of muscle, which puts you above the majority of men already, given how widespread obesity is these days. 

So, take a good look at the girls you are pursuing, and be aware of what you have going for yourself. Of course, the average guy is often forced to settle for very average girls himself, but if you have made an effort to improve your life, then this should be reflected in the women you are with. Women can be very calculating when it comes to “love” and relationships. They are used to competing with other women for men, and they know their value very well. More often than not, their mission objective is to “marry up.” If they go for a guy who looks less good, it’s usually because he has money, and you surely don’t need to go to places like Saint-Tropez for examples. 

Thus, take a long hard look at yourself and evaluate yourself. Then, go after women that are in your league, and not the ones that throw themselves at you because of your achievements. After all, once you’ve had the necessary means, you surely stopped going for the cheapest wine either, or didn’t you?